Protocol & Negotiations

A structured guide for pre-scene discussion between Dominant and client.


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1. Identity & Basic Information

Preferred name / scene name

Pronouns

Emergency contact (already verified on intake)



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2. Experience Level

New, intermediate, experienced

Prior exposure to D/s dynamics

Previous positive experiences

Previous negative experiences or triggers

Specific skills, tools, or dynamics the client is familiar with



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3. Physical Health & Physical Limits

(Professional, safety-focused topics only)

Existing injuries (backs, shoulders, knees, wrists, etc.)

Chronic pain conditions

Joint limitations or flexibility concerns

Skin sensitivities or conditions

Allergies (latex, scents, metal, etc.)

Medications that affect pain tolerance or circulation

Concerns about mobility, balance, or endurance



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4. Mental/Emotional Health Considerations (Non-diagnostic)

Anxiety, panic tendencies, or known triggers

Words, tones, or actions that may cause distress

Topics to avoid

Activities that promote grounding and regulation


(Not collecting medical diagnoses — just scene-relevant information.)


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5. Negotiated Activities (Allowed / Maybe / No)

Break down by type, depending on services offered:

D/s Dynamics

Command/obedience

Protocols, positions, posture

Tone (authoritative, stern, ritualistic, controlled, neutral)

Mindfulness-based D/s or psychological structure


Impact

Light/medium/heavy

Implements the client is comfortable with

Implements off-limits

Areas of the body to avoid


Sensation / Physicality (Non-sexual)

Temperature (ice, warm objects)

Textures

Pressure

Physical restraint or containment

Blindfolds

Breath control only in legal, ethical, controlled non-risk formats


Role Dynamics

Rituals

Structure

Spoken lines or responses

Silence protocols



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6. Hard Limits

Anything that is a firm no.
This section must be explicit and non-negotiable.

Include:

Physical hard limits

Psychological hard limits

Language/tone limits

Touch limits

Situational triggers



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7. Soft Limits

Activities the client is open to but with:

Restrictions

Intensity caps

Context-specific boundaries

Time limits

“Only with warm-up” conditions



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8. Pain Tolerance Calibration

Preferred intensity range (1–10)

Past experiences with pain levels

Physical signs of overwhelm

Emotional signs of overwhelm

Safe signals (especially when gagged or silent)



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9. BDSM Communication Signals

Safeword (Green, Yellow, & Red)

Slow-down word (e.g., yellow)

Non-verbal stop signal

Non-verbal check-in signal

Protocol for emotional drop or unexpected response



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10. Aftercare Needs

Physical aftercare (water, blankets, sitting quietly, grounding)

Emotional aftercare (reassurance, structure, calm tone)

Preferred duration

Aftercare that is unwelcome or uncomfortable



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11. Expected Outcome of the Scene

Ask:

What do you want to feel?

What do you want to release or experience?

What do you want to avoid feeling?

What is the intent or purpose of the session?

What does “success” look like for you in this scene?



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12. Risk Awareness & Consent Confirmation

Understanding of the nature of consensual power exchange

Understanding of marks, soreness, or short-term emotional intensity

Agreement to rules and boundaries

Confirmation that all contact is non-sexual

Session can stop at any time

Consent can be withdrawn at any time



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13. Dominant’s Boundaries & Conditions

No sexual contact

No nudity

No illegal activities

No alcohol or substances prior

Respect for time and communication protocols

Compliance expectations



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14. Logistics

Session length

Rate agreed

Deposit confirmation

Location & arrival protocol

Clothing expectations

What to bring

What not to bring



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15. Final Confirmation

“Do you feel informed, safe, and ready to proceed?”

“Do you have any remaining questions?”

Signature or verbal confirmation
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